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The fill in! YAY! I’m going to give a word of warning. I’ve got a pretty intense cold right now, so I’m taking some pretty intense medication to try to knock it out before festivities begin on Saturday. So, I’ll apologize for the nonsense that may or may not be spewing from my mouth and out of my fingers onto my computer right now. HAVE FUN!!

  1. With PCS moves happening every few years, do you take the time to paint and decorate your home? submitted by Life as Mrs. JPT
    At our first house together, I did paint… but we also owned the house. This time around, we’re not painting, but we’re also renting so that is a factor. We also don’t know if we’ll stay in this house or move when our lease is up, so I don’t want to spend a ton of money on painting a house we’ve only got a year in. We keep the same wall hanging/pictures so that makes it feel like “ours” as long as we have our stuff on the walls and in the house.
  2. If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be? submitted by Standing By Him  
    I think I’d want to live with Liz Lemon from 30 Rock. Two reasons: 1.) I don’t really watch anything else. and 2.) I kind of love working all the time. As long as it’s something I love! It would also be pretty cool to live in NYC (I’d rather it be  Chicago… but whatevs.) I love Tina Fey, something fierce.
  3. What inspired you to start your blog?  submitted by Pink Combat Boots 
    Honestly? I was bored one day and needed an avenue to write. I also wanted to get into freelance writing and I thought writing on a blog to people who would understand where I was coming from would help getting some writing juices flowing.
  4. What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever seen on base? submitted by Adventures in Life 
    An alligator… and a cottonmouth (a snake… a not so nice snake.) Not even kidding.
  5. Which historical figure (politician, writer, artist, scientist, actor, etc…) would you like to have dinner with?  submitted by Army of Two 
    John Stewart. Not a valid historical figure? Too bad 🙂

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It’s FRIDAY again! I have a confession to make though… (I started my weekend at noon on Wednesday… SHHH!!!) Ok, so only kind of. I do a lot of my work from home. I don’t have to go to the office to get stuff done and I gotta say… it’s FREAKING AMAZING. I spend a lot of my “working time” out on our back porch with a glass of wine ummm… an iced tea. Yeah, iced tea. I’m really am kidding about that. I don’t drink in the middle of the day or while I’m “on the clock.” I have done some media/marketing plan brainstorming after hours with some wine. But not during the day. Anyway. I’ve been working from home since noon on Wednesday. I’m incredibly productive when I can go at my own pace with familiar surroundings. Like TC, the dogs and this little guy:

Say hello to my little friend. But on with the post!

First up: The Fill-in. Head on over to Wife of a Sailor and link up! Word of warning. I’m in a really strange mood today and I’ve dealt with more than the normal amount of ladies wallowing in self pity about deployments… two month long deployments. So I’m slightly jaded with some of my answers. As always, take what I say with a grain of salt and some tequila.

  1. What is your must have gadget? submitted by Flying High With My Flyboy
    I cannot live without my iPhone. It is my contact book, my email client (for the five, yes 5 email accounts), my link to TC when he’s deployed and my iPod. I’m holding off on getting the 4, but my 3GS has been fantastic to me over the past year and half.
  2. How does your adulthood compare to what you imagined it would be like when you were a little kid? submitted by L to the Third
    Ya know, I don’t remember how I imagined adulthood would be. I really have no recollection of ever thinking of adulthood when I was kid. I know that I did, because every kid does, right? Things have changed so much in my life since I was small, but I know I never thought I’d be living in paradise with a military service member. This was not something I could make up in my head.
  3. What is your favorite chocolate recipe? submitted by Our First Deployment
    You need to put chocolate in things? Isn’t it amazing just plain? I did make these around valentine’s day and they were pretty much heaven in a cookie.
  4. How do you deal with military life when it gets to be to much or to hard? submitted by Combat Boots And Pointe Shoes
    Honestly? This life isn’t THAT hard. It’s life. Sometimes life sucks and doesn’t go exactly the way I want it too, but it’s never been “Oh my gosh, please make this all stop and go away. I CAN’T HANDLE IT” hard. When things start to suck I just remember that this too shall pass, hit the gym, throw back a glass of wine and pet the dogs, uh, normally in that order. Life is what you make it and if you make so that it becomes too much or too hard… you’re DOIN’ IT WRONG! (Just kidding… kind of.) (Disclaimer, right and wrong are viscous terms and different for everyone. What I say is “right” may not be someone else’s definition of “right.” Please don’t flame me for this answer… OR the next one.)
  5. What piece of advice would you give a new Military spouse facing their first deployment? submitted by The Albrecht Squad
    Don’t see you significant other as your “everything.” He/She can be your other half, your soulmate, your one and only, but remember. You are your own person. You control your attitude and emotions. Roll with the punches. Things will change after they’ve been set in stone. Learn to embrace the suck. Laugh at situations… and yourself. Ask for help. A bottle glass of wine is a perfectly acceptable substitute for dinner some days… So is chocolate. Use the time apart to better yourself in some way. Focus on living your life the best way you can. Smile and remember: This too shall pass.

Next up: The Round Up! Head on over to join Beckie @ Turn for the Nurse

And last but not least:

Day twenty-five: would you rather date someone plain with an amazing personality or someone beautiful with a plain personality?
I don’t really have to choose because I have a hot husband with a pretty kick-booty personality. So there. Take that! 😉

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Let’s just get started with this incredibly long post, shall we?
First up:
  1. What are some  of your ideas for staying connected with family…you know, those people we moved thousands of miles away from? submitted by Live it. Love it (or not). Write About It.
    We skype. A lot. I also call my parents and my brother/his family quite a bit. We don’t skype with TC’s family as much, but we do talk to them. I’m getting ready to send a care package of home baked goodies to TC’s grandfather… so we use that avenue as well.
  2. What’s the most romantic gift you have GIVEN? submitted by Painting My Canvas
    Last year, after TC got back from his crazy deployment, I surprised TC with a July 4th weekend trip to Chicago. Cubs game, Goose Island Brewery tour, Frank Lloyd Wright home and studio tour, the works. I worked all of his leave with his commander prior to his homecoming about three weeks after he got back from the deployment, I basically just drove him to the airport the morning we were to leave. He had a blast and it was a needed trip for us to reunite with each other and get away from the hecticness of my work. It was also a good down time for use before he left again for training and we had to PCS. (Shhh…. I’m planning another trip for this year too!)
  3. Would you encourage your child, if they came to you and wanted to join the military?  submitted by Perfectly Imperfect
    Ya know, I’m not sure.  The correct answer here is yes.. but since we have a LONG time until we actually have to deal with this… I’m just gonna pass.
  4. What is your least favorite bill to pay and why? submitted by A Little of This, A Little of That
    Sewer. Why do I have to pay someone to haul away my … um… waste? That one gets me every time. And water. I grew up on well water and until I moved into my first apartment, we never paid for water. That one gets me too.
  5. What is the proudest moment you’ve had as a military spouse?  submitted by Our Okinawa Life
    When I worked for a non-profit (that will remain nameless) in Kansas, I had the opportunity to work the Patriot Guard Riders. The ORIGINAL ones.  I had to work an event with a bunch of them and after talking with me for a few hours, one finally piped up and said that my husband was in the Air Force and was coming home from a deployment in a few days. They gushed about how they appreciated not only TC’s service, but also mine. I thanked them, finished the event and went along my way. A few days later, after I picked up TC from the base, got him home, showered, fed and in bed… I went back to work (we had a major event a week later… taking off work for days at a time wasn’t an option.) When I arrived back at my office, a giant bouquet of yellow daisies were sitting on my desk. They all chipped in to buy me flowers to thank me for supporting my airman. After the emotion of the reunion and then leaving him again to go back to work, I just collapsed in tears in my office. I was so honored to be thought of and to be recognized for something that I normally just push aside – being a military wife and sacrificing my life with my husband physically being home so he can defend our country. I forget that other people don’t live this life. Others don’t know what it’s like, and to recognized for that was unique and an honor. I still talk to some of those riders. I loved working with them. I actually miss them 🙂

NEXT: This week, the Round up is being hosted by Lydia at withlovelydia. Head on over. Share your fave post of the week. Do it! Sorry, you don’t have to if you don’t want to, but you should! There are some lovely ladies over there. Seriously. Check it out!

And finally: Day eighteen: name the TV show you have become addicted to.

I have three:

30 Rock

The Office

Parks and Recreation

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Day 8: Three things you want to say to three different people.

Can they be anonymous? I’m going to make them anonymous. Ok, two of the three are anonymous.

1. Please stop using your unborn child for attention. I get that you’re scared and that you’re going to give birth while your husband is deployed, but if it was SUCH a big deal… why did you actively try to conceive when you KNEW he was leaving for an eight month deployment?! You made your bed, now stop trying to gather sympathy from everyone.

2. Thank you for making me see that life is short and that I need to tell those that I love just how I feel about them. Thank you for reminding me that there are things in life I cannot control and as hard as I fight them, it’s easier to accept and move on as best I can. I will never forget what you have done to myself and to so many others that loved her, but I am slowly learning to forgive. You had demons to overcome. I feel that you are doing just that. While I will never forget the night you took her from us, I hope that you never forget either. I hope that every time you have a drink you remember her. I hope  our loss and her death caused you to become a better man; to make better decisions.  “Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons.” – Jessica Lange

3. Dear AF: Thank you for sending us to, quite possibly, the most beautiful location you could send us within CONUS. I feel very, very lucky to be here and I’m glad TC finally has a mission he enjoys. The past five years have been really hard on him and he needed a good assignment to regain his entusiasm in the military and with flying. It also helps that we’re on the beach and I’m have a really great tan building up. So, thanks for not sucking on this one!!

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math

I skipped a few days! Oh NO! I’m sorry to have left you guys hanging this weekend. It was filled with sun and beach,

beer at a local brewery (my favorite Saturday afternoon ritual, by the way)

and a hot tub. It’s kind of nice to disengage for a while and not worry about anything. But I missed ya!

You know how I’ve been claiming that I have some pretty severe OCD when it comes to the organization front? Well… my calendar looks like Rainbow Brite threw up all over it. The calendars on my phone and also on my computer desktop are the same way. Lots of color. Lots of organization. Lots of OCD. This is not new; I’ve done this since I was in high school. I’m going to blame my mother and the fact that when I complained about the planner that was issued to me when I was a freshman and she took me to the Franklin Covey store. I’m a lot like her in the organization respect and she fed my OCD. Thanks, Mom…

But the point of this is not that I’m crazy. You and I both know that. The point is to do a little math. I finally got around to pulling down the boxes of office supplies from the top of the closet in my office that haven’t been unpacked yet (don’t judge) and I found my old planners! (I’m also a borderline hoarder when it comes to certain things… I might NEED to know what I did on November 4th 2007!!!) I’ve written down every TDY, deployment, overnight flight and every other time TC has been away from me for an extended period of time. The first night we spent together was our second date… so I just started from there. Other than the military (and a few other random trips for my work) we’ve spend every night together since that day. So, here’s some math for ya.

1,635: The number of days we’ve been together (wow… and we haven’t killed each other yet. This = miracle.)

683: The number of days he’s been deployed to the sandbox. (or in transit to and from)

189: The number of days he’s been at training within the states but not at our station.

94: The number of days he’s been TDY outside the US.

The totals for this (if you’re not great at math, or simply don’t want to break out the calculator):

Of the 1,634 days we’ve been together, we’ve spent 966 days apart.

Almost 60% of our relationship has been long distance.

I know this is nothing exciting for many of you and there is a large majority of ladies out there that are saying, “Yeah… so?” But my civilian friends are simply floored by this number. Confounded even.

He’s been home since November, and secretly… I might wanna kill him. I kid! I kid! Kind of.  This is the longest stretch of time we’ve ever spent together. As much as deployments and the time away makes me appreciate him, it’s a different beast trying to adjust to having someone home so much.

Side note: Please don’t hate me right now by talking about how it’s SO inconvenient to have TC home. I don’t feel that way at all. I’m treasuring the fact that he’s actually here and I’ve been getting so much time with him. The next three to five years will consist of 2-3 months deployed, 1-2 months home.

But the readjustment… Spending over half (60%) of your time alone and not with someone else is… interesting. When TC is gone, I don’t have to check with anyone to see if they have plans for that night. I don’t have to cook for someone else unless I really want to. I don’t have to work with someone else’s schedule. It’s strange to have another human with opinions and thoughts living right next to me, all the time! I don’t really know how civilian couples do it!

I am very used to being by myself. Doing things on my schedule and not worrying about not spending enough time with TC. I am usually the one to take out the trash, pay all of the bills, feed the dogs, etc. Having him home has shifted the balance of our household and we’re both a little freaked out by it. I am slightly resentful that he doesn’t know what days the trash man comes. I’m slightly resentful that he has no clue how much we spend on water and electricity every month. I know these things. They are second nature; I’ve never had a need to share them with TC.

It’s a learning experience for us both, and something that we’ve been working on for the past three months. I’m sure that we’ll get it figured out just in time for him to deploy again. Isn’t that always how it works?  When that happens, I’ll fall back into my routine of being alone and pay all the bills, take out the trash, and occasionally have cereal for dinner… or chocolate chip cookies… or popcorn. The dogs will have to be walked without TC’s drill sergeant type discipline. We will all adjust… and we’ll have it down to a science, again.

But until then, I’m just enjoying TC being home and the percentage of time we’ve spent apart vs together in our relationship slowly decreasing. 🙂

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Oh the fill-in! I found myself thinking on Wednesday when all of this stuff was going on that I couldn’t wait for Friday to link up with everyone!! It’s almost like I have a standing lunch date with a bunch of amazing ladies who make me laugh and smile and just feel all around good inside! Thanks again to Wife of a Sailor for hosting and doing such an amazing job keeping us all in touch!
  1. Aside from no deployments, what is one thing you would want to make the MilSpouse life “perfect”? submitted by Oh How Delightful
    I’m not going to lie – we’ve got a pretty good gig going here. Aside from the on/off/on/off etc. deployment schedule… it’s not bad. I’ve got sun, sand and sometimes surf. I’ve got the pigs (the dogs) that keep me company. I think the only thing I’d do is eliminate the drama from some of the spouses. I mean, can’t we all just get along?! Sometimes there is so much drama that I wanna grab some popcorn and dish about it on some online forums, then I remember that it’s real life… eww.
  2. Just how many peppers did Peter Piper pick? submitted by Married into Army
    84… duh.
  3. If you could have any career in the world with nothing holding you back, what would you do? submitted by It’s My Party and I’ll Cry if I Want To
    I’d be a blogger and social media manager for a advertising agency in Chicago. Hands down. Or… I’d devote my life to working with animals in some sort of rescue type organization. Or… I’d spend my life cooking (but make someone else clean up the kitchen.)
  4. Do you have a service oriented tattoo and if so what is it. If you don’t what would you get? submitted by The Squid’s Accomplice
    My two cents: No tattoos of any kind for this girl, especially not a service oriented one. This kind of blows my mind. I get that the Service Member would want to commemorate such a large chunk of their life by permanently inking it on their body, but a spouse? Yes, our lives are ruled by the military, BUT we didn’t sign over our lives to Uncle Sam. We didn’t go through boot camp. Our lives aren’t in danger half of the year. We don’t go on deployments. (Side note: There are some spouses that are also Service Members and to them I say, “Tattoo away my friends. You have/are serving our country well and you deserve to ink whatever you want on your body. And thank you!!”) But to the spouse that doesn’t actively serve? It’s kind of tacky, in my humble opinion…
    IF I were to get a tattoo, it would be of a gerber daisy in honor of a very good friend who was killed by a drunk driver.
  5. Imagine a block of time has opened up in your busy day for you to take a class in anything you like. What subject would you choose?  submitted by To The Nth
    Photography! I love taking pictures and while reading things online has been great to learn more about how to take good pictures… I really need someone to teach me, show me, tell me what I’m doing wrong. Or I’d take a hot yoga class. If I could do that every single day, I’d be a much happier person… but alas, I can’t afford to take it everyday and I don’t have the time 😦 whomp whomp.

And the Roundup hosted this week by Consider The Lilies!! Head on over. Check out some MORE amazing MilSpouses (and significant others!) I keep adding to my reading list and also to my blogroll on the left!

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YAY! The Fill-In is back 🙂 If you want to link up, or if you just want to read some pretty kick booty milspouse (girlfriends and fiancees too) blogs; head on over, link up, join the fun! Thanks to Wife of a Sailor for hosting again!

  1. What is your favorite MilSpouse blog (not including Wife of a Sailor who we all love, or your own)? submitted by Our Crazy Life(Wifey note: whaaaat? You can’t say my blog? No fun! LOL, just kidding)
    I can only choose one? Nope.. sorry, I’m choosing three, The Diary of a Mrs., Uncorked and Unwined, and Married Life in Paradise. I have a ton on my google reader, though.
  2. What are your favorite perks about your s/o being deployed (we all know there are perks)? submitted by Ramblings of a Marine Wife
    I love that I get the TV and the bed to myself. Well… kind of, the dogs hog the bed quite a bit, but it’s nice to have a little extra room to stretch out. I also get to eat whatever I want – especially those foods that TC hates.
  3. How long did you date your <significant other> before getting engaged? Married? submitted by Utterly Chaotic
    We dated for about three years and then we were engaged for about two months. No big wedding for us. At the time, I planned events for a living and planning a wedding didn’t sound fun. No other reason for the quick engagement than that. We’ve been married for almost two years.
  4. What do you think your <significant other> would do if s/he wasn’t in the military? submitted by Adventures of M-Squared
    I’m sure he’d be either an aero-engineer for Hawker/Cessna/Learjet, or an economist somewhere… but he wouldn’t have met me. Since we met while he was in the military, I’m pretty sure our paths would not have crossed.
  5. If you could talk to the Secretary of (fill in your appropriate branch) what is one suggestion you would like to bring to their attention in order to improve the lives of military families?  submitted by My Life as His (Air Force) Wife
    Ya know, I could say things that are expected… like: don’t deploy him so much, don’t make us move every three to five years, don’t take him away from his family so much. But guess what, it’s his job and that’s what he does for a living. My one suggestion? Be a little more open to sharing information that’s not classified and keep us in the loop too. Also: offer mandatory marriage briefings to everyone getting married to a SM. That knowledge (and just having someone say, “hey, this is how it’s going to be. Deal with it”) is invaluable.

I found the Roundup again! I lost it for while, but I’m back with it! YAY! Thanks to Hillary at The Whole FamDamily for hosting this week!

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